I don't know why people always come to me for relationship advice. I guess just because I have a lot of experience in that area of life, I don't know. It is almost annoying at times. I mean, you ask for advice but you don't listen to it..why waste my time then? Everyone always asks the same question, "How did you get over Pedro so easily and so quick? I'm trying so hard but it just isn't working." I realize that it may be difficult to get over someone but you have to understand that every relationship is different and no one deals with things the same way. Just because it was easy for me doesn't mean it will be equally as easy for you. I just have a very different mind set than most people i know. I take it for what it is, a learning experience and move on with my life because obviously it wasn't meant to work out and there is no point in dwelling on the past because then you let the future and what could be pass you by. That and the fact that Pedro cheated on me six months after we started dating and i didnt find out until we had been together for two years. I guess after being through so much with someone and after they have burned pretty much every bridge possible, it's not that hard to say goodbye. It hurts, of course but after being miserable with your life for so long, it's easy to just let it go. Everyone i talk to about this is always the same, "Oh i hate so and so and they are the worst person ever blah blah blah" truth is you really don't hate them. I will admit that i still love perdro as a person, i am far from loving him the way that i use to but he still holds a tiny place in my heart. Even though Pedro did some horrible things to me, to this day I will tell you what a great person he is and how he really is a good boyfriend when he wants to be. How can you hate someone that you have shared so much with? Someone you have put so much time and energy into, Someone that has been a huge influence on your life? No matter how long you dated, because i find it rare to have people who have been with someone longer than six months to be asking for advice on getting over people, which i find a little weird that it is that hard when Pedro and I were together for two years and we just walked away from each other like it was nothing, then again we both saw it coming too. I guess for me it was easy to do because there wasn't a lot left at that point. I wasn't happy with us at all and he was controlling and lied all the time to cover up everything he had done. After we broke up we exchanged a handful of mean words with one another and while at the time they hurt, we both know neither of us meant the things that we said but i feel like that helped me a lot to be able to just drop everything and walk away. I don't really know. I saw it coming to be completely honest with you and he will tell you the same. The reason we broke up was complete bullshit really, it was just an excuse to end it. It's like they say, the first time never lasts, I mean...like i was really going to marry someone i met in the tenth grade and dated when i was 17? Most likely, no one in that situation will. Yeah you end up talking about it after being serious for so long but it is far from reality. Even though we planned pretty much our whole life out together...I realized that once he was out of my life i was a lot happier, that isn't love. We stopped speaking for a while, a good while which is something i think everyone needs to do before trying to form a friendship. Really, you just have to let go of everything, which is hard for everyone i know, but until you are no longer bitter towards them for the things they have done to you, you wont get over them. Despite all of the things Pedro and I have been through and everything he has done to me, I have no hard feelings at all. I hold no grudges and I don't hold anything against him. It just takes time really but you have to realize that well, life goes on. Relationships aren't black and white, they are a very grey area and they aren't meant to be easy. You take the bad with the good and keep going on. Look at it as a learning experience not a waste of time. After all time you enjoy wasting with someone isn't time wasted at all.

So this is really like all over the place but I just felt like I needed to write about it because people ask me so often why it is easy for me to get over people I date, mainly Pedro because he was my most serious boyfriend. Take it for what it is, a learning experience and don't dwell on it. Trust me, there are bigger and better things out there. Just think about the positive side of it. Let go and stop being bitter about it, it happened and it is now done and over..move on with you life and use your experience to better yourself and your next relationship.

That's just how i look at it.